The Annual Love Box
Next to making Halloween costumes, I believe my parents’ second least favorite holiday was Valentine’s Day, because we had to make handmade Valentine’s Day boxes for school. Every February, I picked a theme and we created a box around it. I can’t remember all of them, but I’m fairly certain I had a Scooby-Doo van, Miss Kitty box, Barbie something and maybe even a Nancy Drew themed one.
On Valentine’s Day we would line up all of our boxes and one by one we would put our valentines in the slot. Everyone got a valentine. I had carefully written out each person’s name on the envelope and inside the card I often wrote a little extra note. I wanted each of my friends to know that he/she mattered. After we all got done distributing the cards, we took our box back to the desk and opened the cards while eating brightly frosted cupcakes. It was beautiful to see all these cards. Yes, ok, we recognized them all from the selection at the store, but it was nice to “feel the love” and know that even if it were for 30 minutes, we were experiencing care, compassion and love. At the end of the day, we would pack up our box, bring it home and…I’ll be completely honest here—mine stayed on the dresser for a long time and I would often look through the cards. It reminded me that my classmates cared and I mattered to them.
I believe that we often misunderstand the importance and value of simple actions. I also believe that we take for granted the times when people show they care or do something important for us. This is especially true when it’s someone who does things for others a lot. It becomes expected. I don’t know about you, but for me, this has become even more clear over the last couple of years. What I know is that at a core level, people want to be loved, accepted and know that they matter.
What are ways we can show the love?
- Take time to listen. Really listen. Hear what is being said.
- Bear witness. Allow someone to process an experience and simple “be” with that person.
- Treat someone to tea, coffee or water and be fully present in the experience.
- Reach out with a phone call to simply say hi.
- Send a handwritten card to someone.
- Notice something unique about someone and let he/she know the ways you appreciate it.
- Tell someone why you are grateful for him/her in your life.
What are some other ways you can show love to someone? Valentine’s Day isn’t just for lovebirds. It’s a reminder that love matters. I think it matters so much that Valentine’s Day could be every day.
What will you put in someone’s love box today?
Blessings, Peace and JOY—
Blessings, Peace and JOY –
