Recently, I had to make a major decision. A defining life decision. As excited as I was about the possibilities, I also had this nagging question: what if I’m wrong?

How many times have you asked yourself the same question?

Why are we so consumed with the right decision and the wrong decision?

What if there was something else that didn’t polarize the decision?

In my situation, what I had to get really clear about was definitions: what did I believe was the “wrong” decision and what was the “right” one. What I finally realized is that it was never about choosing the “right” thing, it was about a perceived sense of loss or making a mistake. Really, what it came down to was pride and ego. What were other people were thinking about my decision and new direction? The clarity of really figuring out what was behind my hesitation made all the difference.

Once I had this clarity, I had a new perspective. With this new perspective, I looked at the decision through a new lens. I started asking myself these questions:

• What is at stake with this decision?
• What am I saying yes to and what am I saying no to?
• What is the worse case scenario if I move forward?
• What am I missing out on if I don’t move forward?
• What decision is fear driving?
• What decision are possibilities driving?
• How does this decision tie into my life purpose and my dreams?
• Is this a decision that needs to be made now or does it need space?
• Have I prayed about the decision and asked for guidance and strategy?
• Have I had enough sleep prior to making the decision?
• Am I moving towards something or running away from something else?
• Where do I feel PEACE?

With these questions driving my new lens, I no longer had the “what if I’m wrong” concern. In fact, I had a new sense of confidence, trust and movement. I also knew that once the decision was made, I would empower it until further notice (thank you Rick Tamlyn). There is learning in everything. Even in the decision-making process. As my dad would say, life is a classroom and class is always in session. Someone else may have coined that saying, but he reminds me of it frequently.

Where have you been struggling with a decision? I invite you to try a new lens and a few powerful questions to see what emerges and what guidance these questions provide. Feel free to reach out if you still need to process a little more. That’s what coaches are here for and I love what I do! There is great JOY in making decisions that resonate in your heart and soul!